You are right to feel how you feel. It’s unfair period. But you need to let your husband know exactly what you expressed here, just be gentle and loving when speaking to him. Tone of voice goes a very long way. I always preface these kinds of conversations w my husband by saying that I want to talk about an important topic and let’s please not forget to address it together as a team. We are best friends and want the best for each other. Then you let him know how you feel and work out a plan so that you don’t feel like you’re in an unequal partnership.